Wednesday, 25 April 2012


Love… no one know what actually love is.. Who supposed we love? When we should know about love and many question will be ask to make sure we know or not about love? Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. Yet, love has an essence that resists defining in any single way––it encompasses compassion, tolerance, endurance, support, faith, determination and more. Love reaches beyond romance and embraces us in all walks of life as we encounter one another and make choices about respecting and caring for each other. But it is true we can know love by this statement. It is just a definition. If we want to know a love in dept we should feeling this love by own self. How we want to feelings that?
  1. 1.  Acknowledge the breadth of love.

Love isn't simply about romance––to define it so narrowly is to deprive our self of the beauty and full extent of love. Love is a feeling, drive or emotion that we experience in association with people, pursuits and nature, and love can be found in many places, situations and relationships.
Love is found in observing nature, in spending time with our companion in learning about other living beings in the world, beings who often show their own expression of love to those they care for.
Love is at its most giving when it is altruistic, shown to a stranger we may never meet again.
Love cannot be pigeonholed––it happens whenever your heart is open to receiving the beauty, wonder and awe of people, beings and happenings around you.
  1. 2.  Learn to recognize what is love and what is something else.Some people confuse love with feelings of lust (e.g., purely sexual interest), ownership or control (e.g., co-dependency or manipulative motivators), worry (e.g., over-involved parenting or a spouse always checking up), neediness (e.g., insecurity or low self-esteem) and so forth. Yet, love is only possible when you don't need others to define who you are or need others to conform to your view of the world. Love isn't a tool for using people or binding them to your side; if you find yourself calling such actions "love", then it isn't love.

  1. 3.  Begin by loving yourself.

You can only truly love another being when you love yourself properly. Otherwise, you risk spending a lot of your life projecting inner hurts, pain and other negative emotions onto other people, seeing the worst in them so as to avoid facing it inside yourself. Loving yourself is not about putting yourself before others––that's another form of confusion. Loving yourself is about having self-respect, discovering what really makes you tick and spending your life being true to your real talents. It's about not putting yourself down and not comparing yourself to others. Once you learn to love yourself, you will be free of any sense of feeling threatened by others' success (real or apparent) and you will be able to share freely of your love with them.
  1. 4.  Actively show love.

Love doesn't just reveal itself through good vibes. It's an active emotion that needs constant input, stoking and tending. It blossoms with attention and shows through the things we do and say to other people each day. Ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love. Show your devotion to others by being considerate, respectful and thoughtful of their needs, by doing little acts of random kindness and by showing them that you care about their well-being.
  1. 5.  Love unconditionally.

Love is an action from which you should not expect returns. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations such as expecting to be loved in equal measure in return, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (namely, making the most of an advantage and being unmindful of others).
If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you only love others for how they can ensure your well-being, you do not know love.
If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
If you profess to love others as a means of gaining power over them, then it is not love but manipulation.

  1. 6.  Be tolerant.Love is about acceptance and tolerance. You cannot say in one breath that you're a loving and caring person and in the other breath say that you hate a particular person or type of person. To do so is to deny the reality of love, which is accepting of even the things you find hard to love in another person. More importantly, love does not compartmentalize––it sees a person as a whole, rather than focusing on a part you dislike and turning that disliked part into the person's whole. Love doesn't judge; it tolerates the differences, accepting the choices people make for themselves in life.

You may have heard someone say that they love a person but do not like them. In this case, the speaker is likely telling you that they accept the person and respect the dignity of that person as a whole but that they couldn't get along with that person, or that they disagree with much that this person thinks, or that they would never choose to spend time with them in companionship. Love doesn't ask you to befriend a person––it asks you to tolerate, to think beyond your own notions of how the world should be and to accept differences without judging.

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You all have been seen how to love.. now I want continue this entry with my explanations about love. For me Allah’s love is more important than others.. Allah’s love give my life clam and peaceful. Not only here but life after.. the second important in my life is loving Rasullah s.a.w. Rasullah s.a.w for the last rasul for all mankind. In the third is my parents.. I love my parents just like I love my soul and I never let him upset with me. I will make them proud with me here and after. Fourth is my family… the most important person that support and care about me… I hope my family will be the best family in the worlds. Friend and others are also important in our life.. Without their live I cannot survive until now.

Note for all: If you have love you don’t want anything else and if you don’t have it doesn’t matter much what else you have....

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