Saturday, 28 April 2012

Wednesday, 25 April 2012


Love… no one know what actually love is.. Who supposed we love? When we should know about love and many question will be ask to make sure we know or not about love? Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. Yet, love has an essence that resists defining in any single way––it encompasses compassion, tolerance, endurance, support, faith, determination and more. Love reaches beyond romance and embraces us in all walks of life as we encounter one another and make choices about respecting and caring for each other. But it is true we can know love by this statement. It is just a definition. If we want to know a love in dept we should feeling this love by own self. How we want to feelings that?
  1. 1.  Acknowledge the breadth of love.

Love isn't simply about romance––to define it so narrowly is to deprive our self of the beauty and full extent of love. Love is a feeling, drive or emotion that we experience in association with people, pursuits and nature, and love can be found in many places, situations and relationships.
Love is found in observing nature, in spending time with our companion in learning about other living beings in the world, beings who often show their own expression of love to those they care for.
Love is at its most giving when it is altruistic, shown to a stranger we may never meet again.
Love cannot be pigeonholed––it happens whenever your heart is open to receiving the beauty, wonder and awe of people, beings and happenings around you.
  1. 2.  Learn to recognize what is love and what is something else.Some people confuse love with feelings of lust (e.g., purely sexual interest), ownership or control (e.g., co-dependency or manipulative motivators), worry (e.g., over-involved parenting or a spouse always checking up), neediness (e.g., insecurity or low self-esteem) and so forth. Yet, love is only possible when you don't need others to define who you are or need others to conform to your view of the world. Love isn't a tool for using people or binding them to your side; if you find yourself calling such actions "love", then it isn't love.

  1. 3.  Begin by loving yourself.

You can only truly love another being when you love yourself properly. Otherwise, you risk spending a lot of your life projecting inner hurts, pain and other negative emotions onto other people, seeing the worst in them so as to avoid facing it inside yourself. Loving yourself is not about putting yourself before others––that's another form of confusion. Loving yourself is about having self-respect, discovering what really makes you tick and spending your life being true to your real talents. It's about not putting yourself down and not comparing yourself to others. Once you learn to love yourself, you will be free of any sense of feeling threatened by others' success (real or apparent) and you will be able to share freely of your love with them.
  1. 4.  Actively show love.

Love doesn't just reveal itself through good vibes. It's an active emotion that needs constant input, stoking and tending. It blossoms with attention and shows through the things we do and say to other people each day. Ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love. Show your devotion to others by being considerate, respectful and thoughtful of their needs, by doing little acts of random kindness and by showing them that you care about their well-being.
  1. 5.  Love unconditionally.

Love is an action from which you should not expect returns. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations such as expecting to be loved in equal measure in return, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (namely, making the most of an advantage and being unmindful of others).
If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you only love others for how they can ensure your well-being, you do not know love.
If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.
If you profess to love others as a means of gaining power over them, then it is not love but manipulation.

  1. 6.  Be tolerant.Love is about acceptance and tolerance. You cannot say in one breath that you're a loving and caring person and in the other breath say that you hate a particular person or type of person. To do so is to deny the reality of love, which is accepting of even the things you find hard to love in another person. More importantly, love does not compartmentalize––it sees a person as a whole, rather than focusing on a part you dislike and turning that disliked part into the person's whole. Love doesn't judge; it tolerates the differences, accepting the choices people make for themselves in life.

You may have heard someone say that they love a person but do not like them. In this case, the speaker is likely telling you that they accept the person and respect the dignity of that person as a whole but that they couldn't get along with that person, or that they disagree with much that this person thinks, or that they would never choose to spend time with them in companionship. Love doesn't ask you to befriend a person––it asks you to tolerate, to think beyond your own notions of how the world should be and to accept differences without judging.

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You all have been seen how to love.. now I want continue this entry with my explanations about love. For me Allah’s love is more important than others.. Allah’s love give my life clam and peaceful. Not only here but life after.. the second important in my life is loving Rasullah s.a.w. Rasullah s.a.w for the last rasul for all mankind. In the third is my parents.. I love my parents just like I love my soul and I never let him upset with me. I will make them proud with me here and after. Fourth is my family… the most important person that support and care about me… I hope my family will be the best family in the worlds. Friend and others are also important in our life.. Without their live I cannot survive until now.

Note for all: If you have love you don’t want anything else and if you don’t have it doesn’t matter much what else you have....

Tuesday, 24 April 2012


The 3 June is always be the time I being waiting. This is a special day that everyone will wish something good to me. That is my birthday. What so special about my birthday or anyone birthday? Because that day we were celebrate with full of happiness and cheerful. No accepted, that day will promise us to something that will be memorable for us include me.

You know that day you get the present? Of course you know because when you wish something that only day you can wish to get is your birthday. Am I right or wrong? I leave this issues to you all to answer that.. Because I done with my answer for this question.. Now your turn…

What you wish to get in your birthday? And you will be gets or not? If that day is my birthday, I wish that all wishes will be true. Sound like I’m a princess. Everything I want I can get. But in the real life, is not like that… some of our wish can be true and some of them cannot be because of something I don’t know. It is because of situation or maybe not. Only you and me know what the truth behind this issues..

Back to the topic… what actually gift I want when my birthday coming? Here I give you all some information that gift should avoid you give to someone.

  • Appliances as romantic gifts
Never, ever give an appliance to your wife or girlfriend as a gift. To clarify, unless you are certain that she dreams to own a deluxe mixer because cooking is her passion - stay clear from appliances. Especially avoid vacuum cleaners, washing machines or any other device that might be used to clean up after you.

  • A donation has been made in your name...
Of course giving to charity is good. However, never give someone "A charitable donation made in his or her name" as a gift... Unless they have dedicated their life to a particular cause (in which case the donation will be meaningful to them) or specifically requested that you give money to charity instead of buying a gift.

  • Something you want
Unless you are truly buying a gift for someone with similar taste to yours... avoid buying something you actually want for yourself. Just because you want a Play station, does not mean your mum will appreciate it, especially when you ask to borrow it before she's even got it out of the box. Take their own tastes into consideration ... see our "pay attention and get outstanding ideas for gifts for friends and family” for advice on picking a gift they truly want.

  • Dumb awards
"Best Mum" mug, T-shirt, and coffee makers and other dumb awards are out . Consider them only if you are under 12 years old or if you want to make a cheesy statement. For example it might be a suitable baby gift for a friend expecting her first child.

  • Offensive gifts
Don't give overweight friend fitness equipment or diet books. You might think you are doing them a favour but they may be offended. Think about what your gifts are saying before you buy to them... remember some gifts can be offensive!

  • Gifts are too generic or too cheap
Mugs, toiletries and lottery tickets are often given as presents. Although they might be suitable as 'stocking fillers' or for people you don't know very well, beware when buying these for close friends and family. This kind of gift just says: "I really had no idea... so here you are". To turn such gifts into welcome presents make sure that they are personalised . For instance, if you know the person well, buy their favourite toiletries or quality mugs that matching the rest of their crockery.
You also need to make sure the value of the gift matches the occasion ... I once spoke to man who could vividly recall his disappointment when receiving a shirt from his girlfriend on his birthday... He was expecting a more memorable - and more personal gift for that special occasion (he now has a new girlfriend).

  • Pets
"Live" presents are usually best avoided, unless you are 110% sure that the recipient wants a pet or you are buying for your child. Dogs and cats are a big responsibility and it is best not to push anyone into that situation without warning... there might be a reason why they don't already have a cat or a dog.

  • Clothes
Clothes are usually best avoided, unless you have seen the recipient try it on and put it back because they could not afford it. Chances are that you will get the style, size or colour wrong and the recipient will feel forced to wear it at least once in front of you.
However clothes can make great gifts if you get it right. Some might even consider using gift giving to curb an addiction to unflattering clothing or bad taste... think of it as clothes.

p/s: Now you know what should you give as a present or not  right.

If someone want give me a present.. I like something that will be memorable or something cute that when I see that present I will smile and remember that person. But who want give me a present? Times come and we were look if I get a present in my birthday in 3/ June/ 2012. If I get I will write one special entry to story about that… you all must waiting for that day? Before I end this entry I want to ask something? There are those who celebrate her or his birthday today? If have I wishes a happy birthday to you and I hope all of your wish can be true. This picture is the cutest one as a gift that we can give to someone..

Monday, 23 April 2012


Friends never know when it comes and when it goes… for me friends like a pearls, although the sea was based far from surface but it is worth same as a friend. Although we just meet but we care about each other.. Here, we learn about the meaning of a friendship.
But sometime we need spilt from this part of being together because of our future… we need to achieved our dream to become someone in the future. This is my first entry … and statement in above is just a introduction for you all about friendships between me and my friends here..
Now, I am student at Universities Utara Malaysia.. Here I learn more and more about friendship.
Here I give you a poem about a friendship… I hope you will understand the meaning of the friendship when you read this poem.
A best friend
is always there,
whether you need advice,
or a pep talk,
or even a shoulder to cry on.
A best friend
listens with her heart
and is always honest with you,
even though the truth
may not be
what you want to hear.
A best friend
knows all your secrets,
understands your fears
shares your dreams.
A best friend
never stops believing in you
even if you give up
on yourself.
You are
that kind of friend
to me.
And no matter what happens,
you always will be.
You are my best friend....
my forever friend.
                                                        ( Renee Duvall )
Now we move to the important story in this entry… I write this entry for my beloved friends that have been follow the exchange student program between Universities Utara Malaysia and Universities Malaysia Sabah. I really miss them… they were there about one semester… next semester they will come back here…

this picture we took two month before they go to sabah... hope you all will enjoy with this entry...